3 Powerful Questions to Ask Before Making Any Life Decision

By The Kindness Catalog – Life Coaching for Alignment, Clarity, and Calm

We’ve all been there—circling a life decision, overthinking it from every angle, wondering whether we’ll regret it, get it wrong, or miss our moment.

Whether it’s changing jobs, ending a relationship, moving cities, or choosing to rest instead of rush… clarity can feel just out of reach.

But in my work as a life coach, I’ve seen one thing hold true again and again:

It’s not that people don’t know what they want. It’s that they haven’t created the right space—or asked the right questions—to hear themselves clearly.

So if you’re feeling stuck, anxious, or caught between head and heart, here are three grounding, high-impact questions to ask yourself before making any big life decision.

1. Is this decision pulling me closer to myself—or further away?

Forget what’s expected, impressive, or even “correct.” The deeper question is: Does this decision feel like home in my body?

Sometimes what looks like a “good choice” on paper pulls you further from peace. And sometimes what looks uncertain actually brings you closer to truth.

Clarity often arrives when you stop trying to make the “perfect” choice—and start listening to the one that’s most you.

2. If I wasn’t afraid—what would I choose?

Fear clouds everything. It distorts timelines, shrinks options, and turns inner knowing into endless second-guessing.

By temporarily removing fear from the equation, you give your true self a chance to speak without being filtered by “what if.”

This doesn’t mean ignoring risks—it means seeing what’s underneath the noise.

As a life coach, I often walk clients through this exact reframe—and the answer comes faster than they expect.

3. What would the most grounded version of me say yes to?

Not the frantic version. Not the pressure-fueled one.
But the steady, clear, calm version of you—the one who trusts herself.

Imagine you’ve already built the life you want. Imagine you’re already whole. Now ask yourself: what would that version of me choose here?

You’ll notice that alignment doesn’t always mean easy. But it always feels clean.

Final Thoughts: You’re Not Behind—You’re Becoming

When you pause and ask the right questions, you take your power back.
Because a life that feels aligned isn’t made from fear or obligation.
It’s built on clarity, honesty, and self-trust—moment by moment.

And if you need help navigating a big life decision, or reconnecting with the version of you who knows the way—I’m here to walk with you.